All the references to “loving relationships and more” do not appeal to me. Do you know of an organisation I can pay to find a matching companion? I am sure you are not the only person who feels the way you do. You are the last person whose letter I am going to answer in this column because my tenure, by my choice, is nearly at an end.I am told that I have a bubbly personality and am very warm and kind. I will be saying more about this next week when I have a look back, but I want to flag up to readers that I will not be answering any more problems.All relationships beyond the professional and cursory require us to share of ourselves, if not on a physical level, then on an emotional one.” I think she is right, which is why I urge you to widen your search.
Children are grown and gone, and it is easy to feel superfluous and unwanted.The way to survive is to battle these thoughts head on and to reach out and do something.I am sorry to withdraw my services, but please don’t write in after today.Unless, of course, anything I have said over the past few years has helped you, in which case I would be very happy to hear from you.The question I have, though, is why she doesn’t want a sexual relationship.
If it is due to intimacy issues, any form of relationship beyond a casual friendship may be challenging.
The end of a working life signals a loss of colleagues and team spirit.
The end of a relationship, through divorce or death, is harder to recover from.
You say you are prepared to spend money on this search.
People who go to the well-established introduction agencies are not looking for a celibate relationship and these agencies have very little to offer women of your age, which is why they won’t take you on. I think it would help you to have a coach or guide like Paula Rosdol, an American businesswoman with extensive experience of internet dating.
By cutting off this possibility at the start, you are trying to exercise total control and deny the relationship any spontaneity or surprise.