Being on a dating app is like walking into a room full of beautiful people and realising you could date all of them. You make your destiny just by the direction in which you swipe on the mobile screen. And dating apps in India facilitate all of this.”With 38,000 “hand-picked” users from 60 plus countries, Able claims that 25 percent of their user base has connected with somebody they were genuinely interested in meeting.
“Compared to men, urban women are almost as pro-active in reaching out to men who meet their own set of expectations,” he says, sharing his insights into human behavior, adding, “though single Indians under 24 are less likely to pay for a dating service.” That should not be a concern because last year this sector was flush with VC funds, and startups like i Crushi Flush, Banihal, Truly Madly, Plush, and Dil Mil, including Aisle received a lot of VC love.
I am now hounding all the 20-plus people around me, asking them to connect me to their friends who use dating apps.
So these apps are a good way to find like-minded people,” she says.However, after a couple of “horrible” experiences, she has uninstalled these apps.Yet there was some hesitation from them in admitting to it, probably because of its reputation in the US and Europe as a place only for hookups.There’s a joke among millennials about using dating apps, and the tagline says, ‘I’m willing to lie about how we met.’ So yes, they seek serendipity but it better be instant.“It was a curiosity for me and I found it interesting to read what people had written about themselves,” he says. Adds Nelly, , says, “The reason dating apps are catching up in India is because we do not have enough spaces to find like-minded people.
In the West, these apps are probably just another way to expand choices, but in our country, it is proving to be the only choice.” Nagaswami feels that as a nation we are also not into activities like trekking or sports etc, which in turn limits our social circle, making young people fall back on these apps.When it comes to love, psychologists often get away explaining it through Darwin’s theory of natural selection.Neil Mc Arthur, a philosopher at the University of Manitoba in Canada, in an excellent essay in Aeon, presents a good argument questioning if humans will ever be liberated from the basic biological needs that drove our evolutionary past?Almost all his friends are using or have used dating apps; the girls though, are not so forthcoming in admitting that. These three words best define the new dating paradigm.By now most of the liquid in their glasses is consumed and the volume of the music is pumped up. If you are looking for a date you can get it instantly.How then is this mobile revolution changing the attitudes of the next gen of young boys and girls in India?