Not because they are gay, but because Sarah Paulson is dating the crypt keeper.” Depictions of significant lesbian age differences were mostly the stuff of subculture before this year, when a number of films pushed the phenomenon into the mainstream spotlight.Three films released in 2015 that centered on lesbian characters — Paul Weitz’s Grandma, Peter Sollett’s Freeheld, and most recently, Todd Haynes’ Carol — all involved intergenerational romantic relationships.But there are also plenty of people who are uncomfortable with Taylor and Paulson’s 32-year age difference.
Misunderstandings with warped oedipal undertones often plague queer women in intergenerational relationships.Once, the author and poet Eileen Myles was checking out at a store with a younger woman she was dating at the time, when the cashier asked her, “How are you doing today, Mom?None were in wide release, but both Freeheld and Carol had big distribution backing, and Carol, which just got nominated for five Golden Globes, is well en route to mass critical acclaim.This year, a whole lot of people have watched lesbians of varying age differences fall in love — and some witnesses have been nothing short of scandalized.”Myles, who recounted the incident during a recent phone call, groans.
“You want to put a stake through the guy’s heart.”Myles, 66, has been romantically involved with a number of women a few decades her junior.
(Both women requested not to be named for this story, to protect the sensitive nature of T’s professional life.) Strangers are always trying to figure out how they’re related.
T has a 5-year-old son; when the whole family is out together, M is sometimes assumed to be the nanny. “As a mixed black woman,” M says, “that plays into [other people’s] assumptions whenever [T] walks into the room.”M finds that when she does get prying age-related questions, they tend to be from straight men, who will openly question her and T’s compatibility.
According to their social media PDA, at least, actors Holland Taylor (age 72) and Sarah Paulson (age 40), are ridiculously, deeply in love.
My colleague Sarah Karlan recently rounded up the sweetest tweets exchanged between the newly public couple.
“We just kind of got each other, a right away thing.