I don’t want to be the selfless Mother Teresa of herpes.
It’s far more fun to be the loud, controversial and brilliant Kanye West of herpes.
The facts on herpes are actually quite clear when you do research online: herpes transmission is not that simple, particularly when both parties make an effort to use condoms, antivirals, dental dams, and so forth.I know couples who have gone years without transmitting by being honest with each other about when they are having outbreaks.They do not barter or keep score, or make a pros and cons list when it comes to asking you on a third date.The question you should be asking is not “Why should I date someone with herpes?How did my partners after my diagnosis make the decision of whether or not to sleep with me? But mostly they looked at me, and thought about the fun, challenging conversations we had, and remembered how gorgeous my thick hair is.
They considered me as a full person, not the “side-effects” of having feelings for me.And here’s the thing: there’s nothing wrong with asking yourself, or asking Google, if you should date someone with herpes.It’s human nature to think it, and to wonder, and to actively make the decision. But in asking me this question, an actual person with herpes, you are shaming and insulting me in the name of needing help deciding. Finding out down the road that their partners has herpes. I've always had trouble connecting with others, so limiting the future dating pool sounds like a bad choice. You need to do what’s right for you and your health, I reassured and soothed my readers, not wanting to ruffle feathers, not wanting to seem extreme.