But what I soon realized was that sometimes the best way to date is to go off script.
So that’s what this column, Undressed, is about: gender, social norms, dating rules — and what happens when we break them.
If we graduated without a future husband in tow, the men in our class would forgo us for younger, dumber women.She advised we start the search as early into college as possible. If he was sour over being stuck with a crusty upperclassman like me, he didn’t show it.When women start conversations, they tend to message men closer to their own age.By 55, they’ll send more than half their messages to men at least 4 years their junior.For example, there’s a 65% chance a 25-year-old man will reply to a 50-year-old woman.
Right Chart: This shows women’s reply rate (by percentage) when men message first.I wasn’t sure, but there’s data to support Trevor’s claim: millennial women write the shortest profiles on Ok Cupid; profile length increases with each year they pass 35.(Across all ages, straight women write shorter profiles than straight men.)And then there are those 50-year-old women who clean up with the 20-year-old dudes.And a 30-year-old man is more likely to respond to a message from a 50-year-old woman than a message from any other age group.When women make the first move, the age gap dating norm is reversed.For example, there’s a 14% chance a 25-year-old woman will reply to a 50-year-old man.likely to get a response from younger men than they are from older ones.