"Well, the best date I ever went on is the one I went on first with my wife—when I was 22.
If she'd watch every television series ever created, and you're an active guy who can't stand to be indoors, well, that shows you might not be super compatible.
This question rocks whether you're new to a city or you've lived there for years.
"You get to talk about local places she likes, see what you have in common, bond over the people, culture, and why you moved to the area in the first place," Jones says.
Better yet: "Many second date ideas can be born from this question." If you want the conversation to become a bit reflective, thoughtful, and meaningful, this is a great fall-back.
"Not only do you get to hear about her life story, but the snippet that's most meaningful and important to her," Jones explains.
She'll get a little reminiscent with this conversation starter. And who knows, maybe you went to the same camp or vacation spot each summer."Learn about her culinary skills, what food she likes, if she's into healthy cooking, and has any favorite restaurants, Sullivan says.Food is always a safe topic of conversation—and an endless one, too.You can see if your personalities and interests jive, too. "Obviously you'll get an insight on her temperament," Sullivan says.But you'll also be able to reign in any bad habits that might prevent you from nabbing a second date.You need ice breakers, light-hearted queries, questions that provoke banter, laughter, and thought, as well as questions that dig a bit deeper and go beyond the superficial. If she hates planes, road trips, or has no desire to leave her hometown ever, that's a good indicator of her ambitions and desires (or lackthereof).