When you get down to it, relationships are as much about love as they are about enlightenment.
I don’t mean that in some kind of religious or spiritual sense – I’m just saying that a large part of relationships is bringing your partner to a new place of acceptance and understanding of you, himself/herself and the world through what you share together.
They also have gushing pussy-whipped characters that ooze with love and desperation, which communicates the message that weak, undesirable men are the ones that use words to express their interest and love. On the other hand, it’s the movies made for women that feature dialogue-heavy leading men who may be greedy and selfish, but always eventually articulate their feelings for the woman.
If he views communicating with you as a skill he can be proud of, he’ll want to do it more with you.
Again, most guys downplay this side of themselves or even are afraid to do it because they don’t want to come off as soft or weak.
When we’re in a relationship, it can be easy to get comfortable.
And truth be told, I know guys that have been in relationship with their girl for years and they would never leave her.
The best that we can do is to be as perceptive as we can be and do what we can to let the other person know how we feel.
Sounds easy when I say it like that, but it takes constant vigilance to truly “see” other people and not project our own image of them over who they actually are. It sounds like you have a great relationship and that he probably would be happy to please you if he understood your experience and knew what you needed him to do.
If you phrase it like he has a special talent or ability, he’ll want to express that side of himself with you.
Guys want to be perceived as having abilities and skills.
When I work with guys, I put it to them like this: There is no such thing as her “just knowing” how you feel or that it “should be obvious”.
Truth be told, this isn’t a guy problem, it’s a human problem – it can be easy to assume that the other person knows how we feel… So what ends up happening is the guy feels like it’s obvious that you know he loves you. or that she should know already and that it would feel forced or fake if they said something that they felt was obvious.
These are guys that just take action and they don’t have to say how they feel because it’s clear through their heroic pursuit and protection of her.