Then later, as some times goes by, suddenly, you begin to notice all these fantastic qualities about them that you didn't know existed, and boom! You're looking for your friend to get ahead by looking out for his best interest. Some people are on their best behavior until they cross the threshold. But your true nature will surface when you're a person's friend first.
Sometimes we think we know someone better than we actually do. If that’s the case, you need to be reintroduced as a couple. We live in an age where everything moves so fast that we expect instantaneous gratification or we get bored. We need to have patience to let a relationship grow at its own pace.
Family who may have only thought of you as a friend need to know that your status has changed. They are usually in close proximity to each other at social events and gatherings and they seem to enjoy each other’s company. Some friendships will develop into a relationship at a tortoise’s pace.
Attraction is that magic ingredient that makes your heart race when you get a text message from your sweetheart or what fills your stomach with butterflies whenever you see him at your doorway. no one ever announces "Ok, we've achieved successful Friends status and are now ready to proceed to whatever Step #2 is (dating/hooking up/going steady/being lovers/soulmates/marriage) -- in short, the infamous next level".
Attraction is also what is missing when you feel weird and regretful after you've just hooked up with someone who's I used to be one of those people that thought it impossible to just be friends with a guy. Most people see friendship as a primary relationship in and of itself, not as a way-station on the road to something bigger and better.
I've never been "friends first" with a boy, though the concept is quite fascinating. Many experts advise that couples should be friends first.
Imagine you meet someone that you're not attracted to. Then the relationship is based on personal compatibility, not just sexual chemistry. Grace Cornish avers that romances that begin as friendships are more likely to succeed: "You're always kind to your friend. There's no respect if you become possessive and controlling." "If you have a genuine friendship, you're not going to pretend to be someone you're not so a person can marry you.
Speaking about your potential future together will hopefully strengthen your bond.
Additionally, it will clear up any misconceptions you have. It’s possible that during your friendship you met each other’s family.
I'll be "friendly," but a real friendship requires some level of honesty and ease.
I know some people are capable of masking their true feelings, a la Joey Potter, but that's just not in my nature.
Attraction is also the feeling of being in sync with someone.