“I like the idea of online dating because it’s predicated on algorithms,” she says.“These algorithms had a sea full of men that wanted to take me out on lots of dates—what turned out to be truly awful dates.” At this point, Webb decided to get really systematic, and to find out how to make online dating work for her. Read on for some more delightful (and wonderfully nerdy) online dating stories we found, well, online.
When she applied her rigorous ratings system to her plethora of possible matches, she wound up with just a single person who met all her criteria. Do you prefer to leave love up to serendipity, or do you relish the opportunity for data to guide you on the way?A couple of months ago, I was sitting at a bar minding my own business when the woman next to me did something strange.The rise of phone apps and online dating websites gives people access to more potential partners than they could meet at work or in the neighborhood.It makes it easier for someone who is looking for something very specific in a partner to find what they are looking for.She had calculated that, in the entire city of Philadelphia, only 35 men had all the qualities she was look for and was still single.
“I can take my grandmother’s advice and sort of ‘least expect’ my way into maybe bumping into the one [of them] — or I can try online dating,” she says.
She made a list of 72 items that she was looking for in a man, then ranked them by priority. All this said, not everyone is thrilled with the sweet nerds they meet online.
She created a fake male profile so she could decode popular women’s strategies and then reverse-engineer her own profile. Take, for example, writer Alyssa Bereznak who wrote the Gizmodo essay, “My Brief OKCupid Affair with a World Champion Magic: The Gathering Player.” After two dates, she broke things off with him, concluding, “Maybe I’m shallow for not being able to see past Jon’s world title. But there’s a larger point here: that judging people on shallow stuff is human nature; one person’s Magic is another person’s fingernail biting.” What has your experience been with online dating?
Surrounded by potential partners, she pulled out her phone, hid it coyly beneath the counter, and opened the online dating app Tinder.
On her screen, images of men appeared and then disappeared to the left and right, depending on the direction in which she wiped.
The idea is that if you’re faced with too many options you will find it harder to pick one, that too much choice is demotivating.