When a guy has you and gets to keep you without really putting in much effort, your stock inevitably goes down in his mind.
At this point, you may notice that he starts pulling away until he eventually pulls a swift Houdini on you, vanishing into the abyss without even uttering “abracadabra” to give you some warning!
When you have a fulfilling life of your own that exists completely separate from him, you will automatically be seen as having great value.When your happiness is rooted in all sorts of things, not just him, you will never have to watch what you say or do for fear of coming off as needy because you will never be needy.The frequency of calls and texts declined…he was always “too busy” to hang out…he stopped initiating contact (but would always respond when I reached out to him, acting nice and normal like always)…Eventually, I stopped reaching out because it was starting to make me feel like an idiot…and he was never to be heard from again.The chase creates the illusion of chemistry, not a real connection.
A man can sense when you’re making him chase you, and if you keep it up you’ll succeed in one thing: chasing him away.When you are this person, you won’t have to “play games” and will naturally activate a man’s natural desire to pursue.Since you are living your life and aren’t relying on his approval to make you happy, he automatically steps up and tries to carve space for himself in your life.MORE: A Guy’s Take on Neediness Now it is worth noting that a lot of women want to know how to make a guy chase them because they want him to pursue her and commit.If you want to know exactly what makes a man commit and how to make him commit to you (and only you), then take a look at this article here: MORE: 4 Ways To Make Him Commit and Want Only You I met this guy years ago, let’s call him Craig.If this is true, those men in the white coats should have been on me like white on rice. I had a very needy mindset and I derived way too much of my self-worth from how men responded to be. (To know what it does look like, check out this article: 10 Things Confident People Do Differently in Dating and Relationships.) It took a long time to realize I needed to stop prioritizing guys above myself, at least until he started treating like a priority.